Friday, May 18, 2012

Personal Beliefs Are Just That... Personal

Thank you to Stephanie for getting me on my butt and getting me to update this blog. ;)

The title of this blog is "Personal Beliefs Are Just That... Personal" for a reason. I know I talk about a lot of things on the social networks that I keep up and every now and then get asked some questions that I think are fair to ask of someone who you chose to interact with on a social level. I make no qualms that my personal beliefs are probably different than most and also have no apologies for them. I wouldn't apologize for my choice in fashion or my preference of entertainment so I put them all into the category of "It's just how I am". 
For my man-geeks out there.

As many of you know, I am a HUGE advocate of gay rights and gay marriage. On the marriage tip, I chose to believe that if millions of heterosexual people can choose to enter into a union of cohabitation, shared expenses, and sometimes mutual misery, than why the hell can't two people with the same genitalia do the same? Is it my business what goes on in a bedroom that is not mine nor that I have rights to? Nope. Would I like to watch two dudes get down in a hot, sweaty, and sloppy manner in their bedroom? Yes. But that is a different story for another time and has no standing on my opinions here. Telling people they have no right to legally intertwine their lives is just like having someone come up to me and say:
"The man you have chosen to date is not OK. Here, take GiddyGiddyUmmBop here and try to make it work. So what if you don't find him attractive. So what if the sight of him is unappealing to you. So what if you will probably never have sex and if you do you will end up in a shower, covered in vomit, and washing away your own tears of disgust and frustration that your life can not be lived the way you choose to. We think it is better for you because ol' GiddyGiddyUmmBop is a better choice in our opinion and OUR opinion is all that matters. If you don't like it, live your life single with feelings of being unfulfilled because you are not capable of making an adult decision without our help."
Hot? NO! Epic? YES!

To that, I say "no thank you". I am perfectly capable of deciding what I choose to do with my life and am somewhat capable of deciding who to love. I say somewhat because if you meet my exes, you will discover I sometimes make mistakes.... Hey, I can't be perfect in EVERY area of life, can I? ;)
I recently saw a picture that said "Isn't it interesting that a country founded to allow freedom from religious persecution is now using religion to persecute freedoms?" and shook my head in agreement.
Listen, I don't care what you believe in, the forefathers of the US came over here to get away from being ruled by church law. That is the whole reason this f'in country became what it is. How is it acceptable to turn around and bring us back under those guidelines? And I know what some of you states are sneaky little bastards... in order to keep it from being a "religious rule" you have started to get these religious freaks to the polls and make amendments to state laws to "define" what marriage is. Show me one fucking place in the world that is was "defined" other than the bible. Please. I beg you. I can go on this tip all day but honestly, I fear it will give me gas. I am allergic to ignorance and it causes me to bloat.
Love is love. The one thing I can not understand is how people are allowed to marry their second cousins, distant relatives, even their step siblings of whom they've been raised as siblings, all as long as they are of a different gender. 'Yay Insest! No Homos!' Just makes me shake my head at the priorities in this day and age.Hey! By the way, remember when it was damn near illegal to be black? They had no rights, no opinions, no respect? And what did we learn from that? Yeah.... Think about it.

Moving on...

I am not nor will be associated with any religion or system that you can put a name on other than Dai'ism. Many of you know some of the basic belief structures in my own school of thought and many have even called themselves "Dai'ists". For this, I love you. ;) The reason I refer to it as such is because I have taken enough damn time to learn a bit from many of the different religions, enough to know that not one damn one of them makes complete sense, but a lot of them have some beautiful ideals that do make sense. For a quick breakdown, here are some of them:

-Love has no gender, color, or social limitations. The only times it is NOT acceptable to love something on a relationship level is when you are of a different species, one of the parties is a child, and/or if one of the parties is deceased at the time of copulation. Sorry to those who are attracted to corpses, but that shit is straight nasty.
--Live and let live. You do things that I don't like, I do things that you don't like, let's have a beer and talk about something else then. Hating someone over choices that really have no standing on you at all is just time consuming and stress inducing bullshit (for lack of a better term). At the end of the day, I am sure you have enough issues in your own life that could use the attention that you are giving someone elses issues. If we worked on solving our own issues as much as we do on telling other people how to live their lives, we would ALL have a lot less stress.
---Yes, I believe in a higher power. But even more so I believe that we all have and make choices. In my opinion, there is no "it was God's will" or "the devil made me do it". Those things don't work when you choose to have an excuse. "The Lord decided that my 22 year old children's father needed to go 'home'"? Ummm. No. Some shit-headed-fuckface-punks decided to take his life. Get it right. "The devil made the 'Night Stalker' kill all of his victims"? Ummm. No. That was mental illness in conjunction with some pretty gnarly drugs who did that one. Sorry. In my own humble opinion, that power is here to help when you need it. I do believe in a 'life plan' but I do also believe choice affects most of our lives here. It is complex, I know. In the end, I am all about personal accountability and a little help from above. This would take forever to explain. If you have specific questions, please feel free to ask.
----It is important to remember that you are not the only person on this planet, many have it MUCH worse than you do, and it is important to be there and help when you can. This does not mean to use your baby's milk money on a text to send $4.99 to Haiti. Take care of your family first, then yourself, then whoever needs it. This extends past money. Can you put a price on a smile or a word of encouragement? No. But you have no idea how much that will mean to someone, especially when they mean it. Don't be a self important prick. As a matter of fact, if I had commandments, one of them would absolutely be "Don't be a self important prick". With so much misery and pain in the world, what would it kill you to make ONE person's day a little better? Think about a time when one random act of kindness improved your day for even just a moment and how you appreciated it. Try to do that every now and then for someone else.
-----I DID NOT come from no fucking rib nor a goddamned monkey. And if you have issue that I feel this way, please read the LIVE AND LET live section. Now I will tell you what, if I am somehow wrong about this, please prove it to me. If you know the fucking monkey we came from, I will dry hump it's bones on film for the world to see. If you can produce proof that I exist because of a rib, show me the rib and I will dry hump it too. I really have a disdain for these two points and although I do not fault anyone who believes this, these are the two most forced opinions of our existence that people try to pound into my head all the time and it just drives me nuts. Neither of them make sense, in my opinion, and enough research has gone into it to disprove both. Read an article. All I'm saying... 
------I very much believe in the soul. I, also, do believe the soul lives on after the body expires.  If you have ever lost someone close to you only to have them around you after their death, you know too. Therefore, it is important to respect the dead. This is very important to me. This ties in with a few of my superstitions but we won't go there or you will know how neurotic I can be. Plus, a soul is energy, energy can not be killed, check that one out ;)
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I can go on and on but I promised it would be short. Pretty much, I just choose to be my own person and live life well enough that I don't hurt people and help as much as I can. Also, be good to people. Love the one you're with. Treat people with respect. Don't be a douche. These are all things to live by.

Other than these, I am running a bit long on this one and don't want to write you a book here. If there are any specific questions that you may have, feel free to ask them. I am probably one of the most accessible people on the planet so you know where to find me.
Thank you guys for dropping by and I will try to keep this one up a bit more. Have a great week and we will talk soon!!


1 comment:

  1. Well, your Dai-ism is pretty much Christianity so I agree with you. Evolution is an unproven theory.

    I'm not an advocate of gay marriage though simply because all marriage is bullshit and it's just more money for lawyers in the end.

    The answer to where heterosexual marriage was defined outside of "The Bible" is, well, nature. It's all about procreation and gays cannot procreate, It's that simple really. Marriage was a license to breed and a contract to stay together to support each other and raise the kids. From all the knocked up unmarried 15 year olds, it's sort of redundant now anyway which is a shame.